Dowry- a curse on society
Most common word used during marriage we often hear 'Dowry'. What it means and how it affects our society, I am going to tell you today.
According to the supreme court,"Any property or valuable security given or agreed to be given either directly or indirectly means dowry."
But in our practical life, it is playing a very terrible role in society. Have you ever imagined that how much horrible is burning someone alive? We can't even imagine the pain of that. Don't you think it is a punishable offense? Don't you wish the toughest punishment for such crimes?
We have been following this society since our childhood accepting its positive and negative both types of customs and cultures. As per my intelligence, customs and cultures must be to make humans' life better and civilized. They must followed by peace. But those who are responsible for violence, murders, tortures and suicides must be removed from our life style. And Dowry is one of them.
In ancient period dowry was treated as gift from the bride family and bridegroom family to the couple to secure their future if any bad time comes in future life. Later slowly slowly when it became a demand and deal, we don't know. But it is true that today it is the biggest issue of society.
Generally we think that only bridegroom family is responsible for dowry but we are wrong. Both families are accused in the case of dowry. If you ask how;
**If bridegroom family is asking for dowry, don't marry your girl there.
**If bride family is offering dowry, deny whether marrying or not.
Both have chances to stop giving or taking dowry but they don't do so, therefore both families are accused.
If anyhow couple are married with dowry, sometimes bridegroom family find a new way of financial income by threatening bride family for more dowry. It happens many times, and in few cases it takes life time.
Similarly, in few cases bride family threats bridegroom family for silly things taking advantage of Dowry Prohibition Act. But we know all that both will be recognized as accused.
In our society it has become a factor to show our family status. People are giving and taking more and more dowry to just express to others that how bigger status they have. But for what, they don't know?
You must have heard about many cases like:
*someone has killed his wife for dowry......
*someone has burnt his wife for dowry.....
*someone is responsible for domestic violence
and so on.....
These are not just news, these are the dark faces of our Indian society. I think these are results of our cowardness and shamelessness. We don't have even shame on us that having a good knowledge and being job holder we seek for dowry. Actually in a way we self are responsible for those deaths for dowry. Yes, as per constitution we are not accused but we are killing humanity that is the biggest offense in respect of nature.
After many years of protests Indian Government made a law named Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 . (Follow the link to know all about the act)
This act extends to the whole India except The state of Jammu & Kashmir. It includes penalties and imprisonment regarding cases related to dowry.
Now days, people have started to understand but such people are very few. Youths are being aware but they are compelled by their own family.
Still in rural and urban both areas people are facing the same problem related to the demand of dowry. Govt. is trying it's best but there is no mean of rules if we citizens don't follow them.
I have found some social practical ways to cure our society;
*Promote education for girls
*Make people acknowledged about dowry prohibition act.
*Respect the love marriages, they reduces the chances of dowry cases
*Accept the bride as your family member not others daughter. The girl is self enough to make you richer.
"Be gentle to make gentlemen and to meet gentlemen." - Jeetesh Kumar
Reform yourself before reforming others. Future of the nation is in your hands, please don't crush it in your palms.
If I'm able to touch a single heart present here, then my speech was meaningful. Thank you for your attention.
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